5 Less-Crowded Beaches to Visit in San Diego
Though the crush of July and August tourism is giving way to locals’ summer, we could all use some space when catching rays at our city’s beaches. We’ve compiled five of the best beaches in San Diego to beat the crowds and enjoy the sun and sand. From top surf spots to peaceful escapes, these are some of San Diego’s less crowded beaches to enjoy this summer.Photo Credit: Cole NovakBlack’s BeachBlack’s Beach is known as the county’s only clothing-optional beach. There are a few different ways down—paved paths, dirt trails, sheer bluffs—all of which are fairly steep and will require shoes with some traction to help you out. Whichever route you take, you’ll be rewarded at the bottom with plenty of space to stretch out and eliminate those tan lines.Photo Credit: Cole NovakSilver Strand State BeachThe strand boasts the same shimmering views and silvery sand as neighboring Coronado, but with nearly an extra mile of space to explore. If you’re on the hunt for warmer and calmer water, you’ll find it on the bay side, which you can access via pedestrian tunnels from the parking lots.Courtesy of ExpediaSouth Ponto BeachSituated south of Batiquitos Lagoon in Carlsbad, South Ponto offers a quieter atmosphere than its northern counterpart and a wider section of sand to enjoy. With bluffs to the left and boulders to the right, this section of the beach feels much more secluded than others, especially on weekdays.Courtesy of Outdoor ProjectSwami’s State BeachAnother hub for local surfers, Swami’s serves up strong waves and a picturesque piece of shoreline below the bluffs of the Self-Realization Center in Encinitas. If it’s people watching you’re after, you can make use of the park atop the stairs. Otherwise, a walk down the stairs and north a little way will lead you to Boneyards Beach for extra privacy.Photo Credit: Cole NovakWindansea BeachWindansea’s consistent waves make it a hot spot for surfers and less popular for families with little ones in tow, meaning you’ll have no problem staking out some towel territory on the shore. Be sure to check tide levels before you arrive to peek into the nearby tide pools. Tip: There are no public restrooms in the area, so plan accordingly!The post 5 Less-Crowded Beaches to Visit in San Diego appeared first on San Diego Magazine.
10 Stunning Places to Propose in San Diego
This is the year—I finally popped the question to my partner, and the most difficult part was finding the perfect location to go down on one knee. While finding the right person is undoubtedly the most important part of the engagement process, choosing the perfect location to propose comes in as a close second.After months of planning, I learned just how stressful it can be to decide on the ideal time and place to ask for my partner’s hand in marriage. Let me save you some headaches and sleepless nights with this list of the 10 best proposal spots across San Diego County.Courtesy of Google MapsInside Sunset Cliff’s Hidden CaveWhen it comes to proposing in San Diego, Sunset Cliffs is often at the top of the list (even my brother-in-law and one of my best friends proposed here). For a unique twist, venture off the beaten path and consider trekking down to the Sunset Cliffs cave. The hike from Luscombs Point can be challenging, so make sure to wear sturdy footwear and check the tide charts to ensure the cave is accessible (you can only reach it during low tide). Just remember to keep a firm grip on the ring as you navigate the rocks—you don’t want to accidentally offer it to the fishes.Courtesy of Japanese Friendship GardenAmong the Gardens in Balboa ParkBalboa Park, with its 130-year history, is one of San Diego’s most enchanting spots for a first date—or an unforgettable proposal. Although the Balboa Park Botanical Garden is under construction until 2025, the Japanese Friendship Garden (JFG) offers a serene and beautiful alternative. Spanning 12 acres, JFG as a beautiful and serene spot for couples tying the knot. Located on 12 acres of winding gardens full of exotic plants native to San Diego and Japan, JFG is the perfect spot for nature-loving couples. Surrounded by hundreds of cherry trees, azaleas, and camellias, you can pop the question in a truly magical setting. The garden is open daily from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. with a $16 admission fee, but for a more private experience, reserve a VIP photoshoot from 9 a.m. to 10 a.m., giving you the garden all to yourselves.Courtesy of Tom Ham’s LighthouseOverlooking the San Diego BayFor something low-key yet special, book a table for two at Tom Ham’s Lighthouse on Harbor Island and reserve a suite at the Pendry for after the celebrations. Tom’s offers fresh seafood and outdoor dining with panoramic views of the San Diego Bay, all within a historic lighthouse that offers two levels of patio seating. Imagine enjoying a plate of freshly caught salmon, a glass of your favorite white wine, and a tray of oysters, and then watching your soulmate’s reaction as you propose at golden hour. Finish the evening with a Champagne toast at Fifth & Rose inside the Pendry Hotel.Courtesy of Triton ChartersSailing the Seas There’s nothing quite like being on the water, away from the noise and bustle of the city. If you’re confident enough to venture onto open waters with a ring in your pocket, consider popping the question aboard a private yacht or sailboat from Triton Charters. Just to be safe, take some Dramamine, skip the shots until afterward, and maybe do a few split-squats to steady your sea legs for the big moment. (Everyone thinks they’re steady until they’re making arguably the most nerve-wracking decision of their life. No pressure.) For a more relaxed experience, a dinner cruise with City Cruises starts at $113 per person.Courtesy of Wikipedia CommonsAmong the Sealife at the La Jolla Children’s PoolThe La Jolla Children’s Pool is another picturesque location for couples looking to propose. Located along the stunning coastline of La Jolla Cove, this spot offers stunning views of the local wildlife and a variety of nearby venues to celebrate. To access the Children’s Pool beach, park (or valet) in the La Jolla Village and take the stairs on Coast Boulevard to the crescent-shaped hideaway. Avoid weekends, as it tends to get crowded—with both tourists and seals. Walk down to the end of the seawall, which juts out into the ocean, and take a knee with the coastline and a golden sunset behind you. Afterward, enjoy a three-course meal at Eddie V’s followed by drinks at the historic La Valencia Hotel patio or the newly revamped Whaling Bar.Courtesy of Orfila VineyardsAmong North County’s VineyardsWhat better way to celebrate your engagement than with a day of wine tasting? Just 30 minutes from San Diego, Orfila Vineyards in San Pasqual offers award-winning wines, tasting experiences, and stunning scenery to enjoy with your partner. Just be careful not to indulge too much in the good stuff before you pop the question—don’t let a buzz get in the way of hours of rehearsal. Time your proposal for sunset and grab a bottle of wine on your way out to keep the celebration going. Afterward, consider adding Orfila’s Wine Lovers Club to your wedding registry for the gift that keeps on giving.Courtesy of Torrey pines GliderportGliding Above Black’s BeachIf you and your partner are adrenaline junkies, consider proposing while paragliding at Torrey Pines Gliderport. Also, it’s hard to say no to a proposal while soaring hundreds of feet above the ground, right? Jokes aside, for $200, couples can paraglide (or, for $225, hang glide) over Black’s Beach for an unforgettable experience. Afterward, set up a romantic picnic with candles, blankets, and a bottle of wine on the grassy hillside just north of the gliderport.Courtesy of Noelani SaplaOn Snapdragon Stadium’s JumbotronSure, it’s been done before, but what better way to shout your love from the rooftops than on a giant screen for everyone to see? Sports enthusiasts can propose at Snapdragon Stadium during a Wave, Legion, Aztecs, Seals, or MLS match, sharing the most memorable moment of their life with thousands of other fans. (Be sure to casually check with your partner beforehand so you don’t strike out on the big screen.) For more information about game-day proposals, contact guest services at Snapdragon Stadium.Courtesy of Compass BalloonsIn a Hot Air BalloonInspired by Pixar’s Up, why not take a private hot air balloon ride with your loved one via Compass Balloons? High above the city, you’ll enjoy breathtaking views of the Encinitas coastline, Del Mar cliffs, and rolling hills of Rancho Santa Fe. For $500, the proposal package includes professional photography, a drone video of the proposal, and a post-flight engagement shoot. Whether you choose a sunrise or sunset tour, you’ll toast with complimentary Champagne and create memories to last a lifetime. Pro tip: Tie the ring to a string and through a belt loop until it’s safely on your loved one’s finger—juuust in case there’s any turbulence.Courtesy of San Diego PicnicsIntimate Picnic on Coronado BeachIf you prefer a more private and intimate proposal, consider reserving a private picnic on Coronado Beach with the help of San Diego Picnics. Their picnic proposal packages start at $535 and include a charcuterie board, a pitcher of lemonade, and optional professional photography during and after the proposal. Celebrate afterward with dinner and drinks at Serẽa, followed by a stay at the iconic Hotel del Coronado.The post 10 Stunning Places to Propose in San Diego appeared first on San Diego Magazine.
Unhinged, A Dating Series: Consensual Non-Monogamy
“Alex is my husband and Zac is our boyfriend,” says local Jess Parker, who calls his relationship orientation “polyfidelity,” a form of consensual non-monogamy. The 36-year-old met his husband 10 years ago. Twelve months ago, they added a third to their relationship. Broadly, polyamory is the consensual practice of engaging in multiple romantic relationships—but it takes many forms. Parker and his partners have chosen closed throupledom: All three of them are sexually and romantically involved with each other, and they don’t date outside of their threesome.“While we believe that love isn’t finite and there’s so much out there, you only have so much time and so much energy that you can give to others,” Parker says. “We kind of joke around that we’re at our bandwidth limit; we don’t have anymore for anyone else.”Admittedly, I had some preconceived notions about non-monogamy: Is it for people who don’t want to commit? Does it only work if you never get jealous? But during my conversation with Parker, it quickly became clear that everyone in a relationship—monogamous or not—could learn something from the tenets of polyamory.While the concept of non-monogamy isn’t new, it seems as though, in recent years, attention to—and interest in—polyamory has reached a fever pitch. Slate even went so far as to call it mainstream, citing Peacock’s new show Couple to Throuple as an example of how far we’ve come. That might be an overstatement—in 2021, researcher Rhonda Balzarini told Psychology Today that “anywhere between 26 to 43 percent of individuals who practice [consensual non-monogamy] report experiences of stigma and discrimination”—but, at the very least, recent data shows a shift in perspective is happening. According to 2024 stats compiled by SexualAlpha, 31 percent of Millennials consider themselves to be in a non-monogamous relationship. In 2021, Frontiers in Psychology found that one in nine Americans engaged in polyamory at some point in their lifetimeSlate looked at various studies to conclude that “two or three percent of all American adults are, by agreement, not strictly monogamous … [which] works out to millions of people—similar to the prevalence of peanut allergies.”In February of this year, Ana Kirova, CEO of sex-positive dating app Feeld, told Axios that the pandemic may have driven individuals’ interest in non-monogamy. Lockdowns gave people time to think about their sexual identities and desires, she suggests. And the data backs her up: According to Kirova, Feeld has seen “a 500 [percent] increase over the last three years in the number of app users including the terms ‘ethically non-monogamous’ and ‘polyamorous’ in their profiles.” But some people, like Parker’s husband, Alex Aragon, have practiced polyamory for much longer. Aragon was in a five-year marriage with a man and a woman before moving to Salt Lake City, Utah, and meeting a then-26-year-old Parker. “I was still a closeted Mormon kid. He made the first move and asked me out,” Parker says. “We ended up dating. He was one of the first major relationships I had, and he helped me come out of the closet.”Aragon was the first to bring up polyamory. Parker says the concept wasn’t completely foreign to him, since he’d grown up in the Mormon faith, in which polygamy was once common. Three years into their relationship, they started seeing other people and eventually moved to San Diego.“When the two of us started dating polyamorously, there definitely was messiness. It was a lot harder, just because you don’t know how to react to things,” Parker says. “But as time went on, there were lessons learned; your own boundaries start being understood more.”Every new relationship involves a learning period, where you’re figuring out how your partner wants to be loved and how that differs from past partners. In polyamory, that’s amplified, and practitioners have more practice than most at letting go of limiting ideas about how relationships can and should look. “Each individual that came in and dated us was different, and they would each have unique things that we would have to learn with them [and] go through disagreements,” Parker says. “When you have two different people that have different preferences and different love languages … it’s so important to focus sometimes on how your partner needs to be loved rather than how you like to love other people.” Making it work requires a powerful level of communication and honesty: constant check-ins, early discussions of boundaries, and the willingness to voice desires and fears. “Some of that wisdom could be applied to every other relationship,” says Dr. Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach and expert in non-monogamy. “I think everyone should import some of the wisdom from non-monogamous communities, including compersion—the idea that love is not about controlling one another, but it’s about empowering one another to be our fullest self.”Successful polyamory involves creating a safe space for everyone involved to explore their boundaries, feelings, and thoughts—including those about safety. In cases where two people are primary partners but have opened their relationship to include others, for example, “They may have an agreement that says, ‘Okay, we don’t wear condoms or barriers with each other, but every time we have sex with someone else, we wear a condom and maybe we get tested every two months,” Dr. Thouin says. Then, they’ll share their results with everyone they’re sleeping with, no matter what.This stands in stark contrast to the myth that non-monogamous people are uninterested in commitment. In fact, they spend a lot of time cultivating and maintaining the connections in their life and learning other people’s needs.They’re also not supremely evolved beings who’ve magically removed the jealousy gene. “When jealousy and insecurities come up, the idea is not to eradicate [them], because that’s impossible to do,” Dr. Thouin says. “Non-monogamous people know that. They reassure each other.”The takeaway for my own monogamous relationship? Communication is key. I want to create a space for my boyfriend to share when he’s feeling insecure or unseen. I also need to work on expressing myself more instead of shutting down—a trait I’ve picked up over the years due to fear of others getting upset with me. I’ve heard from friends who have used Feeld that it’s refreshing to speak with its members because of how open and upfront they are about their wants, needs, and desires. Better communication right away could ease the process of meeting someone who shares your values and weeding out those who may not be a fit. What about you? Have you ever explored consensual non-monogamy? Would you? Let me know your thoughts in an email at [email protected].Lastly, thanks to all who came out for our first singles mixer to celebrate six months of the column. After this week, we’ll be moving to a bi-monthly schedule—catch a new article back here on Friday, September 13.If you’re new to Unhinged, catch up on all the dating chats you’ve missed here and follow along at @monicles and @sandiegomag on Instagram to know when a new article drops each week.Sign-up now for the Unhinged newsletter for exclusive content, Q&As with Nicolle, and subscriber-only meet-ups![sdm-newsletter-placement]The post Unhinged, A Dating Series: Consensual Non-Monogamy appeared first on San Diego Magazine.
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